Child Visitation

[Sherry]

Some background.  Me and my husband have been separated for a year and are now going through a divorce.  I normally have my kids with me all the time.  I do get stressed and need a break, but prefer it to only be for a few hours or a day or 2 days max.

My kids went up Wednesday and I thought, oh great, I can really get a lot done without interruption.  Thursday rolls around and still I'm doing fine.  Then YESTERDAY... ugh, it was really like a day of mourning.  I call the kids because I miss them so much, but they're having fun and not real talkative.  Seriously, I don't know how people do this.  I was deeply depressed ALL day.  This is so tough.  Anyway, just trying to keep on, keeping on.  I got a good nights sleep, which always helps and I'll be super busy with my gigs all weekend.

[jubob]

Arr Sherry, that's horrible they are still so young maybe that is why it is so hard  Try and make the most of it 

[AMAZINGface]

Sherry,

There's so much I'd like to say...  We are not good vessels for wrath and stress.  It was never intended for families to come to this sort of place.  That's what makes this so incredibly hard.  We weren't meant to do this to ourselves.
So, now what?  Pray and persevere.  Talk to God. He waits to help.  He restored me.  He can help you through His Son, Jesus Christ, too.

ps:  I post this knowing it'll invoke all sorts of questions as to the appropriateness of spiritual matters in this forum.  But God has been so good to me.  How could I withhold such useful information?!!  Other posts are about painting.  You can paint and pray at the same time, you know!!!  Praying for you, Sherry.

Daina
AMAZINGface

[AMAZINGface]

Oh.  And Happy 4th of July everyone!!!!

Daina

[reginanewsum]

daina, wonderful words you speak for Sherry and for all of us.  Yes you can speak the word of our Lord any where you are. I have talked to him several times while paints, Our Father will heal and help mend your troubles, if you give him and chance and let him into your heart and soul.    Thank you Daina all of us need to stop and review and sort out our troubles every now and then. Very amazing and powerful words you speak. Thank you

[twink-elle]

Hi  Sherry,
It is heart breaking especially at the start. My first husband and I split up when my son was 1 and a 1/2. he's 14 now and I wish he would never go away. He does, he goes to his dad's every second weekend and every second Easter and Christmas. I'm used to it now and most of the time the days go by really quickly but the holidays can be really hard. I deal with frustrations from his dad and there are still his efforts to control me by making me wait and not really caring about the time and driving I have to do.(we live about an hour apart) I tell myself I am doing it for my son, who loves his dad and even if the visits aren't always quality time and he would be better served staying at home it is the way it is and my son, Kole, feels loved by a lot of people. Kole is grateful for me and my 2nd husband who he calls by his first name but he knows we are his parents. Reg, my current husband taught him to ride his bike, tie his shoes and generously gives him time. Kole knows he has a great life and is a generous, giving and hardworking young person. I sometimes feel I shouldn't be so strict in case he decides he wants to go live with his dad and that would completely break my heart but he really does appreciate all I do for him and realizes that taking up his own responsibilities and chores builds a stronger character for him and makes him a valuable part of the working of our family.
Stay strong and it is okay to miss them, we will always have those moments whether it is when they are young, when they go to school and when they finally leave home.
Time goes by quickly and it is the most valuable thing we have and can give our kids.
Peace,
Danica

[Sherry]

Thank you everyone for your kind words.  The weekend was super busy and went by quickly, no more time for sad feelings and they're back home now. 

I believe it's a bit harder because they're young and I'm not used to it.  I struggled with not wanting to be too strict with my grown son, because I was worried he'd want to move away to his dad's.  They get such a glowing view of the other home I think.  He did end up moving there when he was 19, but didn't stay long and he's home now.